there are times when a change of direction is for your highest good.
While I am working around in the apartment, my mind keeps going back to some incidents with a friend of mine. I am seriously considering a break from the relationship. Seems like an easy task, but it is never easy.
This person has been my friend for quite some time. She helped me move and clued me into an open position at work. However, I am really getting tired of her bossy and rude ways. She will want to go to dinner and I will already have food. If I say "no", she will start in with "you gotta eat." Yes, I know, but I have already gotten my own food.
Other times, we end up some place where I cannot resist getting something that I should not eat. Then, I have to hear about how this or that is good for "us" to eat. Why are we here, then?
One time we went to eat, she read her book on her nook while we had dinner. Okay - I ignored that. What really killed it for me was the next time we went out to eat, she pitched a fit about the woman at the next table. She was on the phone talking to someone while eating dinner with her family. I have to scratch my head and think "How is that different from you reading your book at the table while we were eating?"
The straw that broke the camel's back for me: I ask a simple question and I damn near get the answer slammed down my throat as if I have offended her. Would have been much easier to have just said "that won't work because...", rather than basically yelling at me in the car. I am not a child and I do not appreciate being treated as such.
I realize she has to endure some personal issues with her son that are causing her some headaches. I am sorry that the situation has reared its ugly head, but I am sure her son is very grateful for her help.
I know of no nice way of addressing the issue with her without serious repercussions to the friendship. However, I don't think I can deal with being treated like that on a consistent basis.
My current thought is just to take a small break from all of that. Rather than having dinner two or more times a week, cut it back to every other week and see how things go. I think that works best. Outside of that, I need to start saving money and eating out all of the time is major suckage on the pocketbook. Also, I am not eating properly. When I restarted my eating patterns with the specialist, I was doing great and felt great. I actually felt like I had more energy and was able to get more done. Now, I am not blaming her for my situation. I am just saying I am tired of being rudely treated. Most people would drop the relationship, but rather than do that, I just need to reduce the time around her. I think both of us will benefit from that.
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